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Earth Medicine for Fall

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Earth Medicine for Fall

We stand nearly in the middle of the Fall Equinox and Winter Solstice, in the Northwest of the medicine wheel. 

Next time you are outside, take a moment and notice what is happening around you. 

Not only is the Earth putting on a spectacular, colorful show, the Earth is reminding us of the importance of letting go. 

The trees and bushes are shedding their leaves. The flowers of Summer are slowing wilting and dying away for their Winter's nap. 

The Earth is letting go of all that isn't necessary, so they can nourish themselves and go deeply inward to build their strength to be able to unfurl their leaves and blossoms next Spring. 

This is the Earth Medicine for Fall.

Let go. Release. Go inside and discover what habits, work, to-do's, lists, and commitments are no longer bringing you joy and need to be released so there is space for something more nourishing to show up for you. 

If our lives are so full of things we have settled for, there will never be room for what we long for to show up. 

Find a trusted friend and share the things you are longing to let go with each other. This will likely deepen your relationship and you will have someone to hold you accountable to the shifts you long to make over the upcoming months. 

The other medicine the Earth brings us is rest. 

As daylight savings time is making for earlier and longer nights, I feel my bones craving rest and quiet by late afternoon. 

Are you giving yourself permission to rest more or to go to bed earlier?

What will happen if you listen to the calling of your inner knowing? What is the worst that can happen if you slow down or stop when your body says it needs you to? 

Tap into the wisdom of Mama Bear. 

Bear Medicine resides in the West and has a lot of wisdom to share with us. 

Bear knows it can’t go at full speed, full throttle all year. It needs a period of rest. Can you allow yourself permission to have that? Can you at least slow down a little bit to fall into the rhythm of the season? 

Look all around you. The Earth is doing it, so why can’t you?

To letting go and deeply resting in the weeks ahead!

xx Nicole

Tending to death and our ancestors

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THIS WEEKEND...THE VEILS BETWEEN THE REALMS ARE THIN.

Connect With and Honor Your Ancestors

With All Hallows Eve, Samhain, Halloween, Day of the Dead and All Saints Day, this time is ripe with opportunity to explore the connection to those that have come and gone before us.

Pull out your old photos, create an altar, and/or set a place at the table this weekend to honor your ancestors.  Tell your favorite stories about them, ask them for guidance as you head into your dreamtime, light a candle and invite them into your home.  

Your ancestors, your guides, your spirit animals are all around you.  

This weekend, find a few quiet moments to connect with them using the journey I created for you, to gather guidance and wisdom that you most need or are seeking right now.  

ANCESTRAL WISDOM GUIDED JOURNEY

If your family has a messy past, like most of us do, make a conscious choice and set some intentions for how you want to heal and bring different experiences to your family line going forward.  

And, if there are things you adore about your family, set the intentions to continue those traditions with your own family as well.  


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Tending to Death and The Dying

Of What’s Left To Come

Contemplate the days,
Not the ones past,
But those yet to come.

How many remain? 
On this earth
In this body
Underneath this sky?

What we deny
Diminishes us

As Death will come
Why not
Embrace death now
As a wise old friend

Let Death
Strip you of your pretense
Awaken your humanity
Humble you in its mystery

Why wait? 
Allow Death’s inevitability
To arouse your secret longing for life
And move you to courageous acts of living

What do you have to lose? 
But the partial death
you call life

Don’t wait. Don’t hesitate  
All that we love will die

Dear Friend, 
Please
Come closer
Help me to love this life
While I still can

- Forest Fein

 

Last Sunday, I had the honor of sitting among a group of women discussing death.  The title of the workshop was Tending Sacred Death: A Witches Perspective.  

I know, it isn't a topic most people want to sign up to talk about but it is such a vital topic.  

As I shift my work from the threshold of birth, I feel the magnetic pull to sit and tend the threshold of death.  

I have recently begun to care for an 86 year old woman on the weekends and also started a job working at my local Senior Center.  Working with our wise elders is opening up a portal of new inner work for me to uncover.  

Our teacher last weekend shared how death is universal and deeply personal.  Since we have all been born, we are all guaranteed death will happen.  Yet, every single death is as unique as each of us are.  

As we wove our way through the day, we could feel the energy shift from light, to heavy, back to light again depending on the topic at an given moment.  The elements were extremely present and participatory through out the day.  

The connection between birth and death in relationship to the medicine wheel were deeply present in our conversation.  

In the big picture of life, starting at birth we wind our way around the medicine wheel from:

East: Element of Air, Breath, Life, New Beginnings, Birth, Infancy, Life Force

South: Element of Fire, Adolescence, Creativity, Passion, Joy, Movement

West: Element of Water, Adulthood, Emotions, Drive, Going with the Flow

North: Element of Earth, Elders, Ancestors, Wise Ones, Darkness, Truth, Going Inward, Deep Knowing

As we move towards death, we begin to wind our way backwards, occasionally moving between them over a period of days or weeks:

North: Losing our attachment to the Earth; Getting our affairs in order; No longer wanting to eat to nourish our bodies.  We begin to lose our grip on the here and now, and time bleeds between the past and present.  

West: Our bodies begin to lose their water.  Our cells and mucous membranes dry out or swell up as our cells break down and release water into surrounding tissues.  We literally begin to shrivel and close into ourselves as our bodies start shutting down.  We seek to make amends. 

South: The spark that gets us up and moving again, or alert after a period of time of unconsciousness.  We strive to move our bodies and minds one last time.  

East: The breath becomes shallow, rattles (as though we are rattling our own souls over this threshold), and slows down.  Eventually, ending in one final breath.  

It will happen.  

Whether we wind backwards in the wheel in a milli-second or it takes us weeks, death will come for us.  

So, it is our job to befriend it.  

Cuddle up close to it and not take a single day or moment for granted.  Death and Destiny are close friends and we need them both to guide us forward on our path.  

Ask death often, "Death, am I doing the work of my destiny?" And REALLY, deeply listen for the answer.  

This is our work for the Fall time.  

  • Go inward.  
  • Seek your own inner truth.  
  • Ask for guidance from your elders, your ancestors or your guides.  
  • Harvest the seeds you planted back in the Spring time.  
  • Slow down.
  • Find ease and flow in your day to day life.  
  • Let your emotions be your guide.
  • And of course, enjoy all things pumpkin spice and a glass of bourbon cuddled up next to the fire.  

To Death and Destiny...

xx Nicole 

 

We must feel before we rise

I am in a state of shock.

I know I am not alone in this feeling, as I see it all over social media and within my inner circles.

 Times like these call for many things, so I wanted to share my process for moving through it.  

As an empathic woman, I have been sensing the energy of the Divine Feminine Rising.  So it made sense, that we were ready for a woman to stand and lead our country.  

Yet, nature and the collective is a divine mirror and reflects back our shadows.  Our own and each others.

This is a hard blow and a large pill to swallow.  There is still more work to be done.  

But before we get back up and dust ourselves of we MUST take a deep hard look, feel into, and sit in the dark places before we can Rise.

Each step below is vital to our individual and collective spiritual survival as we move forward from the mirror we have been shown.  

1. Clear and ground your energy.

For all of you that are empathic, energetically sensitive, think you might be sensitive (okay, really, everyone) clear your energy.  Many of us empaths are feeling the fear, the sadness, the grief, the anger, the disappointment of so many around us.  It is so important to first separate what your individual feelings are from those of the collective.   

Go put your bare feet on the earth.  Imagine growing roots out of your feet to ground your energy.  Then imagine a shower of white light pouring down, over and into our entire body.

Allow this light to run through you into the Earth, imagining it washing you and taking with it anything that doesn't belong to you.  

Continue to do this as many times a day as you need to stay centered in your own energy.  

2. Feel your grief and loss. 

I am seeing so many people, light workers and positive people, wanting to just shift right back into bringing light and love to the situation.  Trust me, I get it.  It is not easy to sit and fully feel our griefs.

I recently spent a month entrenched in standing and digging up past griefs with Pixie Lighthorse.  One thing that she said that stood out so profoundly, is that 'when we stop feeling our losses in life, eventually we stop feeling everything'.  WOW.  That stopped me right in my tracks.  

Our culture doesn't show up for grief very well.  We want to talk about how people lived great lives when they passed, that things always work out for the better, it wasn't meant to be, etc.  

We gloss over and we fear what may happen if we open the floodgate to our grief.  Fear that the darkness will swallow us whole and we won't ever return.  But we do return.  

So today, and for as long as you need to, sit with your grief over how things have turned out. 

Feel first.  

Because only from fully feeling, can you begin the journey to truly authentically Rising.

3. Trust in the Divine.  

This step of faith can only occur after you have fully felt the loss and grief over what you desired or wanted to be.  

I firmly believe that everything happens in Divine timing.  Meaning, everything happens for a reason, the right people show up in our lives to teach us lessons about ourselves, and things happen when the time is right for everyone involved, not just me.

So, with this thought it mind, what does this situation have to teach us?  What do we and the collective still have to learn to move fully forward in bringing balance to the Divine Feminine?  

This article was written back in July in the Huffington Post, and is important to the process of looking within our own natures at this very public, very in our face, sort of mirror for each of us to see where we still need to grow.  

Donald Trump: Spiritual Teacher in Disguise

4. Choose to Rise.  

Everyone.  Each and everyone of us is being asked to step up. We must untangle what is ours and what is others.  We must feel and grieve.  We must take a good, hard look inside of ourselves to see what most needs to change for us to find our own balance between the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine.

Then we get up.  We brush ourselves off.  We stand not in fear, but in our true inner strength.  

This is our time.  

When you are ready, let's rise together.  Sure footed. Healed.  Whole. And Strong.  

This is when the shift will finally happen.

Today I Rise from Blaze of Grace on Vimeo.

Finally, Love trumps hate, always.

xx Nicole 

Connecting with the wisdom of your ancestors

This weekend...the moon is new and the veils between the realms are thin.

With All Hallows Eve, Samhain, Halloween, Day of the Dead and All Saints Day, this time is ripe with opportunity to explore the connection to those that have come and gone before us.

Pull out your old photos, create an altar, and/or set a place at the table this weekend to honor your ancestors.  Tell your favorite stories about them, ask them for guidance as you head into your dreamtime, light a candle and invite them into your home.  

Your ancestors, your guides, your spirit animals are all around you.  

This weekend, find a few quiet moments to connect with them using the journey I created for you, to gather guidance and wisdom that you most need or are seeking right now.  

If your family has a messy past, like most of us do, make a conscious choice and set some intentions on the New Moon for how you want to heal and bring different experiences to your family line going forward.  

And, if there are things you adore about your family, set the intentions to continue those traditions with your own family as well.  


Have you been following my Earth Medicine experiment on Instagram?  

If not, be sure to find me at @createwithsoul

So, cozy in for the weekend ahead my loves....and be sure to tag me if you share your altars or pictures of ancestors on social media.  

All love.  All Soul.

xx Nicole

Feeling the Edges of my Skin

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I have been preparing for my upcoming Rebirth through the Senses Retreat in Paris, France next month, diving into the relationship I have with each of my senses to awaken my own full-sensory journey.  This is what I have discovered along the way.

Bringing presence and awareness into each moment, focusing on one sense, is no fucking joke. 

I don't say this to be discouraging, but to WAKE YOU UP, from your sleepwalking slumber through life, my dear.  

Touch is the one sense that I keep coming back to since it is one that can never be shut off.  You can close your eyes, you can plug your nose, your can shut your ears, you can chose not to eat, but you can't stop your skin from being exposed to sensations and experiences every moment of every day.  This causing most of us to no longer have an awareness of the edges of our skin.

The entire body is touch factory.  

It is in contact with what we chose to wear (are you wearing things that feel divine on your body?), what we chose to bathe in (are your bath and shower products a toxic cocktail aimed to cover the natural scent on your own skin?), who we chose to allow close to us (are you receiving loving, heartfelt touch or are you being treated roughly, and with little respect?), and it absorbs into the body all it encounters (are you slathering your body with feel good, natural products, if not, why not?).

When was the last time your slowed down to feel the edges of your own skin?  Slowly and lovingly massaging coconut oil over your entire body, or taking the time to chose what you are wearing each day because it feels rich and luxurious on your skin? I can guess it was either a long, long time ago or likely never.  


"You touched me like there was more to me than skin."
-Emma Bleker


No other sense can be damaged as deeply as touch can be. 

I realized it is no surprise that our relationship to touch as women is so shut off.  Nearly 1 in 4 girls are sexually abused before the age of 18 and 1 in 5 women are raped at some point in their life.  Knowing that most sexual abuse is never reported, makes both of these statistics likely even higher.  

I have considered how many women suffer some form of physical abuse in their life, causing further shut down of the sense of Touch.

These realities cause a painful and deadened sense of touch. 

Though the sense of touch can feel turned off, with a lack of life, I bring hope since I have discovered that it is really a seed waiting to be planted, tended, watered and waiting to sprout and bloom.  

My awakening to touch has been challenging as it is a sense that I turned off long ago. As someone who gets over stimulated easily, my days as a young mother with 2 children under 2, were full of constantly holding, breastfeeding or caring for one child or another. I felt over touched, and over needed most days. It continued with having a husband at the time, that touch only meant him wanting sex from me when most of the time I wanted nothing to do with, but did it anyway, forgoing my own wants and desires.

This has been a challenge I have worked to overcome in my relationship with my now fiancé, since I arrived with more baggage than I realized. I am rewiring my brain to not associate touch to always mean that someone wants something from me, to fully enjoy and relish in all the beauty that touch holds.


To begin the awakening process it starts with an awareness of the edges of your skin, where you end and something else begins.

Here are some important questions to ask yourself to tune into your sense of Touch:

  • How connected are you to your sense of touch?  
  • Does it feel safe to be turned on by touch?  
  • Do you spend time honoring your body with sacred touch: massaging your feet, smoothing oil onto your skin, wearing clothes that feel silky on your body?
  • What are some ways you can awaken the sense of touch for yourself? Perhaps treating yourself to a monthly massage, reaching out to hug those that you love, or cuddling with a close friend.

The biggest lesson I have learned is that it is challenging to awaken our senses in our day to day lives.  It takes constant attention, presence and awareness.  

This is yet another layer in my spiritual development, as being fully embodied is just as important as all of the other tools I use to expand more into who I authentically am.  This is all about the journey, not the destination.