What is your Divine Mission Statement?

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This is something that is very hard to admit, but my intention is to always be authentic.  

I have spent too much of my life caring what other people thought about me.  

It kept me over-striving, people-pleasing, unauthentic, scared, low, depressed, and small.  I have always been shy and introverted.  I don't believe in talking over others or shouting out in a crowd, so I can often be found in the corner of a party (if you get me there at all), quiet in a meeting that others are running, and often only sharing when asked.  

DEEP, AUTHENTIC CONNECTIONS ROCK MY WORLD.  

THEY ALWAYS HAVE. 

These were not always easy to come by growing up.  Because I preferred my own company or the company of those that I knew well and trusted, others chose to judge and label me a 'bitch' growing up.  

This label has been hard for me to break down and shed over the years.  I believed and embraced the label instead of fighting it for way too long. I began to think of it as a badge of strength after spending too much time looking to TV and movies in my teenage years, trying to find my way, but only seeing how much the media loves strong, hard, tough, bitchy women.  They are portrayed all over television shows.  They are the ones that all the men drool over, want, and desire.    It is next to impossible to find dynamic, but kind and vulnerable women characters to relate to.

It has only been in recent years that I have begun to drop the idea that what others think of me creates my self-worth and am still doing healing around my self-worth. 

A couple years ago, I offered my Pay What You Can Soul Seekers Virtual Workshop.  I could have used this as a system to measure my worthiness by allowing others the opportunity to put a monetary value on my services.

I mean, really.  I spent 5 years in school training to be a midwife, with a $75,000 student loan debt to show for it.  I spent 10 years working with women as their primary health care provider during pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.  I trained with a Shaman for 3 years.  I studied and worked with energy healers and mystics for the last 15 years. I have spent significant time, money, and energy learning my craft and gathering the wisdom I hold inside of me today.  I know I have a lot to offer.

So, when some paid me $1 (66 cents, after Paypal took their portion)  for a service I normally charge $300 for, it could have felt like being left a penny as a food server after serving someone a $300 dinner.  Even though I had friends and colleagues up in arms about the $1 payment, I chose to not allow this external representation to determine or challenge my self-worth.  

My goal for offering the Pay What You Can Workshop, was to make sure money would not hold people back from participating if their Hearts and Souls desired to. I trust that people truly paid what they could, and that they placed more value on their own well-being than they do on their daily cup of coffee. 

What I know to be true...my divine Mission Statement:

I AM A SACRED, DIVINE, SOULFUL, INTUITIVE, HEALER AND EMPATHIC LIGHT BEING WHOSE PASSION STEMS FROM GUIDING OTHERS IN FINDING THEIR OWN DIVINE LIGHT IN LIFE.  

Here I am sharing my own Divine Value Ritual to guide you in finding your own Divine Mission Statement...


Divine Value Ritual

  • To begin this ritual, find a quiet place, light a candle setting your intention, play some soothing music and take come nice, long deep breaths to deeply connect to yourself.  
  • Write down a list of all the things in your life that make you unique.  
  • From that list, create your own DIVINE MISSION STATEMENT, as I have done above. 
  • Write down your DIVINE MISSION STATEMENT in as many places as you can that you will see regularly this week.  The more you write it, the more it becomes embedded in your subconscious, and the more it begins to rewire the neuropathways that are otherwise filled with the negative self-talk we tell ourselves.  Write it in your daily calendar, your journal, your bathroom mirror, next to your desk, and on a sticky note in your car.  
  • Keep writing it down until you know it and feel it by Heart.  By doing so, it allows your conscious mind to travel to your DIVINE MISSION STATEMENT the next time your self-worth is challenged by outside influences.  

I would love to hear what your DIVINE MISSION STATEMENT is in the comments below, so we can hold each other up in our own unique DIVINE Self-Worth.  

You can also share your Divine Mission Statement on social media and using #divinemissionstatement to spread your light by uplifting and encouraging others to do the same.

I love each and every one of you for sharing your struggles and your light with me, as I share my own.  We are on this Soul Seeking journey together.

XO!

~Nicole

Untangling the Ties of Privilege that Bind Me

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In my youngest years, I always felt special.  

I grew up thinking it was the oldest child syndrome, where the world revolved around me for my first few years of life before my sister was born.  

My parents tell the story about my first year of life living in Italy.  Apparently, I cried anytime someone who spoke Italian tried to hold me.  Since I don't remember this time in my life, I can only assume that it is part of human nature to be fearful of something different. 

Children, who don't have filters yet react and say things that as we grow up we are taught to quiet, hush, not look at or even acknowledge.  We are literally taught by most people around us to not speak the truth or look at our differences, which only increases the divide that was placed there long ago.  

When you were a child, do you remember when you realized you were different?  

It may have been the language you spoke, the color of your skin, which gender box you were put into, or a religion you were raised in.  Do you recall that moment?  How old were you?  Where were you? And most importantly, how did it make you feel? 

The immersive nature of our family of origin, good, bad or indifferent, shapes the way we see the world, our language and our belief systems due to our inability to filter out truth from myth at young ages. 

As adults, this causes significant challenges in untangling our own inner Truth (with a capital T, the divine deep truths and values we hold) from the “truths” we have been fed from a young age.  

As children, it is inherent for us to seek love, and to do whatever it takes to receive love from those who we are closest to. 

This can show up in the form of being a caretaker to an alcoholic parent to be seen as important to the family.  Or, showing up as the clown in the family to gain or keep the attention on themselves.  The list of ways we adapt as children to feel love is massive.  

Then, as we age and seek acceptance from our peers, at some point our differences make their way into our consciousness.  Perhaps, it was through a traumatic moment of teasing or bullying.  Oftentimes, it is simply someone stating their belief that diminishes your existence.    When that happens, we all sought to conform somehow to be accepted.  

And, here is where this goes deeper. 

Understanding that for myself, as a white woman, I had the privilege of conforming.  I could change my hair, my language, my friends, and I was still going to be more accepted than those with more diversity than me. 

In this last year, I have begun to look hard through my hetero-normative lens of privilege.  My primary focus for the last few years has been to focus on the oppressed community of being female vs taking a long hard look into where my privilege lives.  

I refuse to be caught in the Spiritual Bypass lane.

As I seek to be allies for marginalized and oppressed communities, I will be shifting my own language to fully represent my inner Truth (with a capital T).  This is deep work for all of us since our thoughts, beliefs, and language has been passed down to most likely oppress someone else. 

It may be that you were infused with oppressive beliefs and language around a particular gender, race, sexuality or religion as a child.  This may show up in continuing to marginalize a community or in micro aggressions, that we are being called to address now.  It is time.  

I love all human beings and seek to hold space for those of all races, religions, gender, sexual preferences, ability, class, and lineage.

I will be sifting through my website and shifting my language to be gender neutral and inclusive of all.  

I will be changing some offerings to stay in my own primarily British, Irish and Scandinavian lineage in support of the de-colonization work being done around me.  

This work is big and deep.  What was handed down to us goes back many generations and it is our duty to all fellow human beings we are walking this Earth with, to do the healing work needed to support equality for all.  

I am releasing the ties of what has been past down by my ancestors and society that were meant to keep me small as a woman, and privileged as a white person. 

As I untie each one, I am looking it over, paying attention to what runs through my head and out my mouth, and shifting to language and energy of love, acceptance, inclusivity, and justice for all.  

Huge love to each and every one of you!

Nicole 

[Part 7] Connecting with the Divine

This is the final edition of this 7-part series discussing how Chakras relate to birthing businesses and us growing into Spiritual women and leaders in our community. If you have missed any part of the series, you can find them here: 

[Part 1] Root Chakra: The root of it all

[Part 2] Sacral Chakra: Darkness & healthy boundaries

[Part 3] Solar Plexus Chakra: Standing firmly in who you are

[Part 4] Heart Chakra: The heart of the matter

[Part 5] Throat Chakra: Sharing your unique & authentic message

[Part 6] Third Eye Chakra: Honoring your visions

This past Fall, I was flooded with visions, ideas, insights and a path forward that I hadn't considered before.  This was when the rebrand of my business came through.  I say it came through because I didn't set out to give my business a makeover. 

Along the way, it made me over, as much as I did the work to makeover the container that holds it.  

The visions would come in as I was falling asleep at night, or in the wee hours of the morning.  I would be woken up in the middle of the night with wording for content running through my mind.  I often had to force myself to get up, turn on the lights and write it all down if I wanted to be able to go back to sleep.  

Spirit, the Divine, was grabbing my attention and showing me the way forward that I hadn't imagined for myself; and I was willing to pull the inspirations down and connect them to my everyday reality.

This happened at the very same time that the Mastermind program I was holding and birthing, was working with the Crown Chakra.  As I worked with the women in the program last year, my internal world shifted with each Chakra Business energy we worked with.  Month by month, my work, my offerings, my internal world went deeper.  

As I had worked my way through the year birthing my Mastermind program, I was doing my own internal work along with those in the program.  I began doing deep emotional healing work that was triggered by me being nudged to stand fully in my power.  

I started last year having no idea how the Mastermind program would unfold and come to life, and then it just happened.  

I showed up to hold the container and I truly believe that Spirit worked though me to bring it into physical form - to make it what the Earth Changers Mastermind is today.  

Earth Changers is for those that are carrying a seed of intention, that know they have something big to offer the World, and they are ready to see exactly what that seed they are carrying will sprout and bloom into.  

Whether that business idea is completely formed or you are wishing to plant your seed of an idea that you know you have but have NO idea what it is, this program is for you.  

This is for you if you know you have a calling, yet don't know the exact form it will take yet.  

When I began this business, I had NO idea it would be what it is today.  I could have waited.  I could have let fear hold me back.  I could have continued to make the excuse that I didn't have the money to hire the business coach that I did back in 2014.  But I didn't wait.  I looked fear in the face and said FUCK IT!  I didn't know where it would lead me, but I knew that the freedom that I longed to have in my life wasn't going to happen until I was willing to say YES.  

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The Crown Chakra.  

Have you ever encountered a super flighty person that seemed to always have their heads in the clouds, with ideas constantly coming from them, good ideas even, but nothing ever comes of them?  Their Crown Chakra is likely wide open and they have a deep rich connection with the Divine, yet without doing the complete work to balance all of the Chakras, those inspirations and ideas can't root themselves down into the Earth to grow into something tangible and physical.  

This is the beauty of being willing to do this work.  What good is it to be given messages from the Divine if we can't then figure out what to do with them?  

I know, for myself, for years I was just seeking to ground myself so deeply in the Earth because when I felt myself open up my Crown energy, I found it difficult to stay present and felt like my Spirit would fly away.  That was not helpful for my consistently anxious state at the time.  

Yet, over time, I began to ground myself first, then open up to the energy of the Divine, of above, of the ethers, and slowly begin to allow messages and inspirations in.  

This isn't always perfect.  I am given inspirations that I don't ever do anything with. Though, I have found over time that the ones that are most important will continue to come back into my consciousness, over and over again, until I am willing to ground them through my energetic body and bring them into the physical realm.  

Giving form to something ethereal isn't always easy.  So, if it feels like I am being a bit vague, it is only because the ability to truly experience it happens only when the prior Chakra energy work is done.  

If you feel something pulling at you to explore what I am talking about deeper, listen to it. Honor it.  Pay close attention to the pull from the Divine.

And keep the voice of your ego in check.  It likes to keep us small, quiet and meek for fear it will no longer be useful to us.  

We can no longer afford to stay small and quiet.  Our world is in desperate need for us to step up as Feminine leaders in the world.  It is time to step into your calling.  It is more vital that we are willing to rise, now more than ever.  

We are powerful beyond measure.  You are powerful beyond measure.  I feel it in you.  I see it in you.  

This is your time.  This is your year.  

Join me here!


None of us can afford the assault on our Souls that is happening by standing still.  Let's rise together. 

xx Nicole